Originally Posted By: Alliistah
That was hard. I couldn't even finish it because all I could think about was her.

I think I am still very confused and I am very hurt. I feel that if she is really gone then she should leave. Why should she be able to stay in the comforts of our home if she is gone in her head and stays in the game so much? Why should I pay for her to have an emotional relationship with other people while she waits until she has somewhere to go? It seems to me that she spends so much time in the game that our marriage doesn't have a chance in hell. My heart is nowhere near being disconnected. It is hard to do that when I see her every day and she looks beautiful and attractive.


Alliistah,

I know exactly where you have been. Back in the day, I REALLY loved my W and wanted to save the M. My W was he!! bent on ending our M.

Yet, she came every night and slept in our bed. After a few weeks, I had to flat out tell her... You are NOT going to sleep in my bed any longer... If our M is over you need to sleep in the guest room! She started to argue.... Then, she got the message... As badly as I want to cuddle her in bed, I had to establish that boundary.... You need to start setting some boundaries...

I wish I had something else to really help you...

Take Care,

RMG

Last edited by RMG77739; 11/04/08 12:09 AM.
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