Now that I'm a regular with choir, I'm starting to get to know some of the folks. A few people have followed me over to the Gregorian chant class so we chit chat more. One guy and I joke by screwing up each other's names.
It's neat to learn about singing from folks who have been doing it most of their lives.
Part of the day was fantastic. I joined a new gym that has lots of classes, committed to my health by signing up for a personal trainer (since I know myself and my weenie-oscopishness) and felt good about it.
Talked to my lawyer and found out that spouse cut back the interim payments to the equitable (not equal) distribution of his paycheck as endorsed by the state of CT. That cuts back on what I can provide for the kids. Is it putting the kids in the middle if I direct them to their father for the extras?
Equitable versus equal is so strange. From the beginning everything was joint.. bank accounts.. everything. We were joint partners, each providing for the family in specific ways. Now with the divorce, the agreement that I would stay home with the kids based on a long term commitment to marriage is null and void. I am no longer an equal partner. He's the guy with the job who deserves to keep the larger percentage of what he makes. From a lawyer's perspective.. I did a noble and precious act by being home with my kids while my spouse supported the family but hey.. it was a good ride but now it's reality.
Go figure.
I was in a tizzy, upset and crying.. because it seems unfair. It's life. I don't have to like it.. but I'll be in an okay position, just way below the lifestyle I was used to. Ah well.
