My situation is very similar, except my H had EA with woman at work and then told me he was leaving because he was so in love and he wants a divorce because he does not want me hanging around for him.
I went dark about 4 weeks ago and initially he kept contacting me but the last 2 weeks he has found a place to rent with OW and once he moved all his belongings out I have not had any contact from him. I am not going to get in touch and am getting on with my life. I think you always have hope but it is something that you don't let control you. I am meeting new friends and doing things I enjoy doing and IF he comes back then I will think about that then. It means I am not waiting around so if he doesn't come back then I won't even be bothered!!! (hopefully) I have to let go, as I said to my H that you can't make major decisions as an adult based on emotions (to which he replied it was the only decison he could make!!) and hence I have to do the same. IF he comes back I need to make a decision on whether I want him back for the right reasons. My decision at present changes like the weather in London!!
It is hard but it gets better. Life has bad patches but it has a lot of good patches too...keep a look out for those.
Me - 32 H - 35 T - 6 yr, M - 3 yrs no kids bomb Aug 08 (suspected June 08)
