OK-- I wrote the above before you posted again (then went outside and chased my dog down, switched the sprinkler hoses, took down a few more Halloween decorations and bought cookie dough from a neighbor kid) and kinda sorta edited it... posted and read the latest.
What I guess I don't get with Dan is-- WHAT is so scary about TRYING to make a marriage with 2 young children and a beautiful, loving, wife work? Why not TRY? Someone may get hurt if it doesn't get worked out, but NEWSFLASH: If he doesn't try everyone gets hurt.
What is he afraid of? Seriously. Do you know? What can possibly happen if he tries his best and puts faith in the woman who wants nothing but his happiness? He'll... what... fail to love you? This is just... ugh...
A.) If he tries he may fail. B.) If he doesn't try he positively will.
This is why I keep getting back to pressure from someone else... like he's losing something if he chooses you.
