Well, STBXH found this site and has been reading my posts.
Guess he's really pissed that I made that comment about taking the bitch's money and losing the [censored]. Now he's reluctant to share any personal details of his life or the OW's life for fear it's going to end up here. Like everyone in the world, our community or our friends know that I'm often CW68 on the big 'ole WWW and google my posts to see what's up. He actually said that my postings hurt our kids!
He meant it because it affects how he thinks of me, but all I could think of was he cheated, he found another, he ended our marriage and ended up with the OW and he says THIS hurts our kids? I wish he could just look at the situation from an outsider's perspective. All my intent was to save my marriage.
All I can say is I'm not sure what he expected when he decided to end our marriage. Like divorce is good, is fun, is easy? He doesn't like the fact that I think he's an [censored].
Have I made mistakes? You bet. But all-in-all, if you read my posts here you can see that I was a hurt, lost person who just wanted to save her marriage and her family. I didn't cheat, I didn't end things, I was willing to put in EVERYTHING and ANYTHING that was needed to uphold my vows and I can stand firmly behind my morals. He told me today that he can, too. Sure hope my kids don't think his morals are good enough to model theirs after.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09