Is it the fog or is he really in love?

[Sugar and Spice]

Hey Donna, I'm living this particular dream myself right now and trust me, its been a little slice of hell. I also have myself to blame for a lot of the pain as I have not kept enough distance between my H and myself. My H's OW is due to give birth anytime now and it may or may not be his, but he has acted as if it is this whole time. Its not an easy thing to deal with, so do yourself a favor and don't. They created this mess, let them deal with it. I'm famous for not taking my own advice, but if you do nothing else, learn from my mistakes. I also understand completely about your feelings of someone else having his baby. Are you sure that she is pregnant and if so that it is H's? If she is still in the home with her H, is it at all possible that they have sex as well?

Take the advice of the others here. GAL, go and do things for you, about you and find things that make YOU happy. Keep on praying and feed your faith regularly. Make your life what you want it to be and he will either join in or remain miserable. This A is about him. Your H will figure out what she is about in time, but the fog is thick.

He justifies his feeling over her because she is "such a great person, with wonderful morals and character".

BINGO! He justifies it. He has to because he knows deep down inside that a woman who cheats on her H, cheats with someone elses H and has already had an A that has produced a child is NOT a good person and has the morals and character of a ferral cat, however he will lie to himself about it for as long as he needs to. Cheaters lie, first and foremost to themselves. They have to in order to continue doing the hurtful and destructive things that they do.

Hang in there and keep coming here for support and advice.