Is it the fog or is he really in love?

[AllW8SBF]

Donna, first as everyone else has said, there is hope. And you should know that for you go to church. Faith can bring hope, so don't stop that.
My H had been in a somewhat similar situation, he had an emotional then a PA with a woman who is in a sexless marriage. Well when he told me she got mad at him and started seeing someone else which through My H in a tizzy and the wheels feel off that affair. Even after she was making it really obvious (at least to a common sense person) that she really was just using him he kept after her - that is how much in a fog they are.
So yes, he is in a fog. First things first that I have found out just recently. GAL - is about you, and more off, it's about finding out if you WANT him or just feel you NEED him out of fear. T2L posted an excellent exert about fear and what it causes us to do. Try searching her thread in the Infidelity section.
So you need to continue hanging with your support group - friends/church. Pray Pray Pray - if you are religious which you said you go to church - Pray, let God fight this battle for you - he will do it when you can't - because your H doesn't talk to you, or H doesn't listen to ANYONE else's common sense - God will talk to H in his way and fight for you. So you don't even need to see or talk to H.

Not that my sitch is any better - H is pulling away more and more each day, but I get joy out of little things that show me GOD is talking to him.
For instance - I feel these are ways God has been present. I ask for help and guidance as to whether I should fight for this marriage or is he really happier without me. Well I go to take my ring off while at a nightclub - just so I can get a pep up from someone anyone come and talk to me, well I can't get it off, then some guy comes up and starts talking to me. I got what I needed and God knew. He knows what is best.
Some may say of that was not God - H would definetly say that, he's not really religious but most S in fog don't think in what outside affects them, their thoughts are all about them - internal.
They'll say that was because I was drinking, and guy coming up oh that was just some guy wanting something.

Then not sure how this will play out, but H has plans to see someone on Friday (he's on a personal website looking for dates)well he started sleeping in the other room and so I prayed last night, please Lord talk to him, and guess what he woke up today at 3:30 with a cold, so he may be sick this weekend. In either case he's worried about it because instead of just taking a nyquil so he can sleep he started taking cold eeze to prevent it.

Find joy and hope in the little things and come back and post here, use this as your outlet because you will have good times and bad and we are here for you.