That's not even the most dysfunctional part of the whole relationship. My H told me they have their PA at her house while her husband is present in the same house. Funny thing is you said any rational man would stay away. My H has not been a rational man for over a year.
He justifies his feeling over her because she is "such a great person, with wonderful morals and character". He justifies because he and I have "grown apart". Thing is, we didn't start "growing apart" until she came into the picture.
I wish I could say this would be a deal breaker but I'm afraid I can't. I always said any A would be a deal breaker and then I found out about his EA and it wasn't. Then I said, well if I ever found out he had a PA, that would definitely be the dealbreaker, but it wasn't. A baby is an entirely different situation. Even though it would be completely innocent in this, it would be a constant reminder of his A. I want it to be the dealbreaker, but at this point, I don't know if there is a dealbreaker.
I hate this about myself. I am a strong woman. I am intelligent. I am funny. People like me. I like myself. Why does this have to be so hard? I don't understand why I would even want him back. He's obviously not the same person I fell in love with and from what I hear, he never will be.
