I had my mediation with my W on Friday. I got there at 9am, left at 5:45pm.
We made no agreements on financial issues.
She negotiates out of emotion, will not budge on issues or items she doesnt believe is right, or best for her.
I wont negotiate on issues or items that are not supported by facts or documents. I just dont see why I would have to budge much if it's supported by the facts.
We did trade offers. She was just tossing out numbers based upon what she thinks is correct. I dont know if she's getting bad advice from her attorney, of if she's just not listening. My guess is she's not listening.
My L thought this was all ludicrous and a complete waste of time. I guess right now we are on path for a court date unless they come back with some sort of offer soon. Based upon what went on for 9 hours and her refusal to accept any logic, I would not expect an offer.
I was really sad because I was certain she would accept the final offer of the day. I was very surprised she did not. Thus, she has significant exposure in court. I do as well, but probably not as much as she does. She was a fool to not take what we offered.
She continues to not communicate with me.
I am amazed that what she is choosing will make her happier. We did not have a bad marriage, I am convinced. She just thinks the grass would be greener with someone else. She gave up her house, the potential to retire early, ability to travel well, her kids 50% of the time, many friends, will now have to work full time for a long time, and created a lot of stress for herself; just so she could find out. That is totally overwhelming for me to think what she's willing to give up to not be with me. That's the reality of it all.
