this also applies to you. If we are not over our Ws what could we offer someone else? Although, there is an argument that entering a new R at this point will help us to move on. I'm not sure if that is true or even right though.
I haven't said, but I took my ring off a while back after I signed the SA. It didn't feel right wearing it. I guess I felt that at a year and a half in to this, people were looking at me like I was in denial and I didn't feel like explaining the situation anymore. Sadly, most people looked at me like I had 2 heads. Maybe there was an element of opening myself up to having someone come along. I'm not sure. It just didn't feel right.
I still believe that there is a lot of guilt and a lot of uncertainty in your W. I think these observations you have and the way she interacts with you point to that. I think the D was a way to try to end her pain. In my opinion, you may be divorced now but your marriage is not over.
MMF, Imageer, I so agree that if we're not even over our spouse, we would be unfair to the person we decide to date. And of course people will think we're strange if we're still wearing our rings. I think it's the Enemy's way of luring us to stop standing- make us feel as awkward as possible, and then begin to think the way everyone thinks.
And MMF, I agree that it doesn't look like you M is over.
