My 29 year old wife going through MLC, this sucks

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Thanks for the sentiment everyone. When she got back from her walk last night I was able to calm down and we did some fun crafts with the kids after dinner. She seemed to lighten up a little too.

THEN...out of the blue she tells me that she was looking at my browsing history on the computer and accused me of spying on her again. Which I didn't by the way. This caught me completely off guard. She was spying on me to see if I was spying on her. Rediculous!. So I tried to stay calm and told her I wasn't doing what she says. She specifically accussed me of checking her myspace page. I told her I don't have the passwords and I wasn't looking. Then she asks me why I was looking at myspace then(i wasn't) and sarcastically tells me that I probably have my own my space page. It was in a jealous way she said this, before this all started she once accused me of looking for girls on myspace. She has a jealous side. WTF. I don't have a myspace page but so what if I did. She does.

So I am not happy that I was visibly bothered by her cornering me like this. She new that I was bothered and little mad, but I shook it off and was able to act like I got over it quickly. Then she disappeared to her room and I never saw her again until this morning. She was not visibly angry this morning but a little distant.

I am just so at a loss right now. This is just another set back and a pretty big one. Me spying on her is what she says led her to the guest room anyways. I know now that I was pushing her away by the spying and snooping but I really have stopped that except for the cell phone minutes the other day. She puts a big emphasis on the spying. I guess this is the ebb and flow. I am really trying to act with compassion and understanding, but I miss her so much and I am so tired of the hurt. My parents and brother are coming this weekend and she is sleeping in our bed for 3 days. I probably wont sleep much having her there because I know she doesn't want to be. This all just sucks.

One minute I am pissed off and detatching, the next i am crying my eyes out. I really don't know if I have the strength to see this through or if I even want to.

You are right SPM that when I went out it was to have fun but I did want it to bother her a bit. I guess I kind of want that jealous side of her to come out and think about me with another woman. It is not productive probably, but I can't help it. The flip side is that I did get hit on when I was out and that helped my confidence a bit.

What a mess. I just want to close my eyes and wake up and be happy again.