Well H spent the day at our house all day yesterday. We talked about next weekend and that I'm playing tennis Saturday morning and I mentioned that he'd have the girls Friday night until Saturday morning so I'd just come pick them up when my match was over.
He goes into it again that it really doesn't make since to have the girls at his place.. with our 6 month old he doesn't have a highchair, and all her stuff... he doesn't even have a TV yet etc.. I told him that he can't keep coming here to watch the kids... H wants to watch kids here and then go to apartment to sleep and come over in morning to feed etc... (must be nice)
What do I do?? Do I keep inforcing this issue? I told him this is what you wanted not me and yeah I don't want my kids anywhere but home. I mentioned the last time he watched and stayed here - he came down at 12:30am and told me he wanted to leave he wasn't comfortable... he just stood there.. that this would be easier for him to just get his place set up and stay there..
He said we need to sell the house then b/c he needs a two bedroom and can't afford a 2 bedroom and keeping up with the house payments and bills... I said selling the house is not an option right now and I'm not loosing my shirt on this home... we've been here only little over a year. I said your going to have to accumlate all new stuff anyhow, crib, highchairs, toys eventually so just start now ... I said why get the apartment if you aren't going to be spending any time there... trust me with no TV or cable he doesn't plan on being at it very much.. He says he was trying to go cheep and stay close to the house.
thoughts??... He will stay at the house when I'm not here but on weekends he needs to take them over night at least... of course I hate this but I also know he'll never really feel the pain or uncomfortableness if he continues to just watch the kids here all the time...
Gosh I want to ask him... what do you think your doing with a 25yr old... but please he left his kids and wife without even trying to save the marriage for her so who am I kidding... he clearly sees a future with her or is willing to risk it all to find out.... UGGGHHHH!!
thoughts??
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
