I think our biggest problems in life is that too many of us focus on what we don't have or can not control at the moment. I personally was having ALOT of financial problem after the Seperation and I stressed about it all the time to point that I was getting sick over it and losing alot of sleep. It also felt like the more I dwelled on it the worse the sitaution became. As soon as I came to the realization that at this point it was out of my control and not something that I was going to fix over night everything started to fall into place. I got the job at IKEA and started to get more and more hours from them and there is talks about a raise at my #1 job now also.
So yes focus your energy now on what you can control starting your marriage over and being happy!! Everything else will fall into place.
