Tuesday 4 th of August. 1. See a councilor 2. Do workout with personal trainer. 3.I will not call him or take his calls. ( My need ) 4. i wont let imagination go wild. If he is with her then there is nothing I can do about it and i should not think about it and torturing myself. 5.Patience is a biggy for me. i feel too old to learn it. I have never ever been patient in my life. Never. i will read up on it and maybe ask c if she can offer help.
PS - Sandi said i while back not to snoop because it is hard to stop. I have heeded that advice.
Also I read something on self distancing. This is where you become the fly on the wall, watching yourself. You can reflect on it from a distance.
1. Mentally take a step back so you can visualise yourself in the experiance- so it is now happening to that person over there.
2. Ask this person why they are reacting the way they are. Don't focus on the bad experiance or you become overwhelmed.
3.As you watch the person go through the event , try to make sense of why she is having these feelings.
