Now hear me out, but, I find this a bit self centered. From the outside point of view (mine)this says that the only reason you are giving him space so that he can heal, is because it is what YOU need. Not, because you understand that he is in pain and that you want to give him space to figure things out.
That is exactly what i mean. If i have no contact with him for a while, then with help of C and this site I may get to a position ( personally where I can let him go ). This means i will be able to have a healthy , none threatening, not passive aggressive relationship. Is this not a healthy place to start. I thought i was Dbing but after the last few posts I think that although I am being nice etc etc I am STILL coming from a spouse position. Could be some needy tone and false tone to my approach.
I love him to pieces, but I am struggling to take these blows. That might be self centered but i have had repeated advice on this site about taking care of myself. Is trying to be accepting of Hs current behaviour so as not to feel like everything a blow part of taking care of myself.
I have made appointment with C tommorrow night. Lets hope she gets through to me.
