I can just imagine your DD's questions (if they're anything like their mom):
"So, this getting divorced thingy changes the current situation how? ... You mean we still get as much time with mommy as before? Cool. So what's the problem again?"
"So, this getting divorced thingy changes the current situation how?
LOL!! D6 only asked a couple questions afterwards and they were about when I worked ("Who will watch us if Daddy doesn't live here?") I said "Daddy. He is always welcome here when you guys are here." We did tell them that some day soon Daddy will get his own house and they will have a room there, and can bring their toys and favorite things. D4 asked "Who will carry the heavy stuff to Daddy's new house?". "Daddy!".
I feel so much better today. I am thankful I was in a good place emotionally because I know they would have been soooo upset if I cried. Or even xH. A year ago, I couldn't say the word 'divorce' without emotion. I suppose it is one good thing to be in a good spot when telling them.
Still blecky, but not horrible.
D6 has a club at school. They meet once a week as a group with the counselor. We are signing her up this week.
We did tell them that some day soon Daddy will get his own house and they will have a room there, and can bring their toys and favorite things. D4 asked "Who will carry the heavy stuff to Daddy's new house?". "Daddy!".
Bless their little hearts!
Yep, the sitch is still "blecky", but I am so happy to hear that you're handling everything and feeling so much better.
You rock, girlie!
(((((lwb)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
lwb, um...I'm going to throw something out there. Many times I have read that the WAS wants to get back with the LBS after the A is over, and many times after the D. Could this be your ExH attempt to test the waters? Always being around and giving you money and trying to take care of you? Have you thought about it from the direction? Many times they are too scared to really try and committ, but slowly make efforts with the LBS. Just wanted to know if this could possibly be what your Ex is doing. You are such a strong and positive person. Even if he is not trying to R, it still is nice to have the extra money.
Halloween was beautiful here. We were very lucky. S and I had a wonderful night as well. Take care.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
Many times they are too scared to really try and committ, but slowly make efforts with the LBS. Just wanted to know if this could possibly be what your Ex is doing. You are such a strong and positive person. Even if he is not trying to R, it still is nice to have the extra money.
Makes you wonder, huh?
Your H is being nice, and right now, so is mine.
They've GOT to be the same guy! There's no other explanation!!!
(((((lwb)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
((((((((((((lwb and those great little girlies))))))))))
Its wonderful to see how well adjusted your kids are. I guess its just a matter of having them Have both you and your xH in their lives just as before, makes a difference.
When H and I were in a really bad place S5 used to get upset and ask if his dadddy was moving out and that he didn't want that... Struck a really big chord with me, and I couldn't even think that way unlesss I explored every avenue to try and work things out (this was in the very beginning)...
YOur doing so great, and im glad that your able to co-parent so wonderfully for the girls.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
