ITH ~ I am so sorry that this weekend turned around so dramatically. I do believe that you have received some great advice from here. Jen Jam had a remarkable post I do believe that you should follow some of her advice. Try the LRT and do not make yourself so available to him.
It is normal for you to get upset after having someone say such things. I do agree that at times he is very insensitive to your feelings and the way that he does talk to you even if he is not raising his voice while saying it. I do not understand why he would joke about you crying, that does sound very harsh.
Are you going to IC at all. You might want to look into this and make sure that you are ok through all of this. You are so concerned with how this affects your H but I believe that you need to focus more on yourself right now and realize that although H keeps saying that the only thing making him depressed in the M is a load of crap and he has issues with himself right now.
You seem like such a great person and I do not want to hear about you being hurt so much and blaming yourself for it. Call me crazy but chatting so personally with you and a few others here I actaully consider you guys my 'friends' and hate to hear about a friend in so much pain.
