Trying2Live-Post #3

[Trying2live]

Hey faith,
I think we all can say we would feel the same way and who knows we may have done the same thing. Yes the argument might have caused a little set back but nothing major. Don't worry about blowing it, everything in life is learning.

I took off my rings when this all happened so don't beat your self up over it.

First take the time to decide if you want the marriage. You have to know this first because you are in for a ride no matter what. We all are and it is not an easy or pleasant ride. It will be very hard and painful and yet we still have no guarantees. I think for me what my decision was i have a goal to make it to one year. My 1st goal was 6 months and I made it now is the next 6 months. I feel that I want to be able to say that I as least gave it a year and that If I have to end the marriage I can say I gave it my best I tried all I knew and can go forward(if I have to) with a clean conscience and not wondering.

No one can tell us how long to wait or how much to endure. We each have to seek our hearts to see what is right for us. For me, at this point I feel 1 year is fair, actually more than fair. Now for some of you it may be more or some it may be less.

First seek out what it is you want. Does that make sense? Then we can go from there. Its a hard thing to know. It took me 5 months to really really finally know that Ok I want the marriage and I am going to stand and fight. I went up and down and all over the place before that. But now that I know what I want I can set the course.