You better get the message.Kidding. Your going through one of the hardest parts of this. Finding out about the pa sucks big time. You did well man! That had to be extremely tough to "as if" it at that wedding. no joke.
Force yourself to get out and do whatever. Positive stuff though, I wouldn't recomend the bar scene or stuff like that. A variety of things.Focus on Jeff (I'll keep drilling this until you do)
Look at it this way if things end up working out. You have had chance to get out,do new things and find yourself again. Hopefully have fun doing it. You are gonna grow from this in a good way. God forbid if they don't work, you will be that much ahead and you will not be saying man I sat around and did nothing and look what it got me. Let go, its a win win for you.
You are strong enough to do this.
Don't get me wrong there is a balance of sorts to this. You can pay her compliments thats not a slip. You don't want to treat her like a jerk but at the same time you have to SHOW her your strong and you will be ok with what ever happens. You want to be kind but not in a desperate way. Don't shoot yourself in the foot and say what your doing before you do it either.
You have to be sort of like when you first met. I'm sure you didn't grab a hold of her and say please!please!please! go out with me I have know idea what I'll do if you don't.
It seems like a game at times but its not. They will say and do all kinds of wierd crap. That's why its best to focus on you. It's sounds like there is guilt there about the way she acted. They do hear and realize that what their doing is wrong. It's like an addict though you can't tell them that. They have to let go to figure it out on their own. If you try she will run fast.
Your not at the end of the rope. This is where day by day, step by step really comes in.
You can do it. Patience and detachment. you can love her and still let go.
