I've been posting in newcomers and MLC but I've come to a new place with my feelings about all this and I feel like I should at least consider the fact that I may have to leave at some point.
My H is in MLC, but things aren't as bad as they could be. He lives at home and things are polite. Our sex life is probably better than has been in past few years because I am paying more attention to it, but even this isn't entirely comfortable because we're not friends anymore so its difficult to be lovers.
H spends 95% of the time he's home in the basement watching sports or playing video games. We have polite conversation. No R talk. Since he dropped the bomb about a month ago we have been living life as if everything is OK. I've been starting to live a life separate from him with interests in friends and working out. Maybe even going back to school for a second graduate degree. I have no idea what he's doing when he disappears for hours on the weekends. I'm 90% certain there's no OW.
He's here, but I don't think I can live the rest of my life with someone who merely tolerates me? Someone who won't make any proactive moves to fix things? Since he's in MLC, I can't be the one to pursue him about making things better because I don't want him to run.
I've been considering a long term strategy to send him a letter in 6 months asking if his feelings have changed for the positive or negative. Based upon the response to this letter I can decide my next move. It will help me get through the next 6 months just knowing that I have some kind of plan instead of just living in this limbo.
Has anyone ever developed a strategy before they left?
Married - 19 years Noticed Problem - Aug 2008 THE Conversation - Oct 2008
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
