Thank you for your kind words. I think I need the moniker to remind me to keep fighting, growing, learing, and changing.
I think at times I have too much compassion for XW, but I'd rather do that than be angry. However, I do need to work on setting boundaries w/XW and I am working on that for sure.
Again, thanks for your kind words and I hope you'll keep following my story and letting me know what you think.
Hey, I'm glad I've been able to join you on your ride. I'm just hoping I'm helping instead of hurting. Sometimes I say too much and I definitely don't want to come across as a know-it-all (b/c if I did, I wouldn't be in this place, now would I?). ANd yes, it has been a very long year. Once we get well ahead of this space, it will be interesting to look back and see where we've been.
Yes, XW is still very, very bitter. She can not and will not take any responsibility for anything. I doubt she ever will. Really, it will always be the same w/ her. It is sad, but it is what it is.
I'm feeling a bit better and it is odd my "low" came on a new moon period. There really has to be something to astrology. It always seems to be at worst in the ballpark.
I would like to have my socks knocked off one day and perhaps I will. I'm wary of a relationship right now, but I'm not adverse to dating and seeing what develops. So, we'll see.
Your prince is out there too, Ali. You thought BF was your real prince, but he wasn't. I thought XW was supposed to grow old w/ me. Now we'll just grow old on our own. I never did expect that, but this is my reality.
D and I enjoyed last night (she as Supergirl, the dog as Superdog and me as the King). She crashed well before 8:30 and wasn't up until after 8:30 today. She was exhausted, but had fun.
I had to bring her up to work here today for our manditory presence at the Open House where we look to recruit newbies for next school year. I had to dress up w/ my tie on, so I'm not to pleased about being on campus in a tie on a Saturday.
Anyway, D colored during my "shift" and we're still here b/c D wanted to come into my room and draw neat pictures on "magic" Smart Board. So, that is still going on, so I'm posting. I'm hungry and will be looking to leave soon.
So, on the way up D told me XW and her were going to take XW's new BF w/ them to Indiana to meet the family. We talked about that a bit and she said it would make her a little sad if they got married, but not too much b/c she "loves BF too" and she'd now have "two daddies."
That does kind of break my heart to know he'd get more time w/ her than I will, but I know I'll always be her daddy and that can never be taken away from me. She also told me she'll love me forever, so that definitely made things much, much better.
So, that's it. We've now been here an hour and a 1/2 longer than necessary and I'm done. I've convinced her to shut off the "magic" board so we can go get lunch. YIPPEE!!
Hey Rob, you know how that new "Daddy" will end up , dont you? He will soon be the goal of your W's bittereness and you will have her off your back...
I am sorry you have to watch all this happening in front of your eyes, so fast after your divorce. The woman is on a wild ride. She is looking for others to "fix" her, meaning to give her peace. I am not so optimistic she will find that unless she starts working on herself...
You keep being a great dad and continue "healing" yourself. Things happen for a reason. Maybe the lady you will share your life with, is that reason although right now you dont know it. Love K
You and Grace keep smiling. (I smile when I read about you and her). I have pics of my D15 in both my cars plus I wave to her as I pass over her town on my flight each night. Not quite the same as before, but it will have to do. Peace to you my friend.
I know she's looking for a fix. She's going to keep looking and be disappointed until she is able to turn the finger on herself. I'm not sure that will happen, though.
The new guy seems to be a decent fellow (although I think I'm better looking) and I know that D likes him a lot, so at least that is good. He'll be the object of her disappointment soon enough, but they'll have a happy "honeymoon" period first.
Maybe he can get her to look inside herself. I couldn't and everyone knows I tried. I'm just concerned about the impact it will have on D, so as you said, I've just got to keep working on me and being a good dad to my little one along the way. Everything else is out of my hands.
On another note, I did have a date last night w/ someone that I really did enjoy. She is attractive and funny and we hit it off well. I'm pretty sure we'll have another date maybe this weekend (at least that's what she said), so we'll see what happens then. However, it did feel good to "click" w/ someone b/c it has been a long time since that happened.
I don't want to have a "rebound" relationship w/ anyone, so I'm going to make sure I'm not moving too quickly. Worst case is I was able to go out and enjoy the company of someone else, so it gave me positive feelings for the future.
