So, does patient involve H yelling at me two weeks ago, saying he wants a D (ok he did say later he was sorry, he does not hate me, but he did NOT ever say he didn't want the D)....
Then hanging out like everything is "ok"....then saying he doesn't understand how things can be going so well, then saying he will "talk" to me but not actually "talking" to me?
My patience is stretching so much I am sure I have pulled a muscle.........
Yes K your H is in a different spot. He did all of that you say, BEFORE he moved out. Well, for 10 months BEFORE H moved out, he was sleeping with someone else AND threatening D. Then AFTER he moved out, he was sleeping w/someone else for 3 months.
My difference, to me, is that he ALREADY moved back in saying he wanted to "work on things". We went to Retro, he was doing the 'work', then apparently decided it was too much work and he wanted a D...........
I just feel like things are going backward instead of forward. He already got to 'leave', then he got to realize it was a mistake and ask to come back. So what do you call this part?? It is not a reconciliation, maybe a re-consideration?
I am just so very frustrated..................................I know I don't really want a D but I desperately want SOMETHING to be different. I want to matter, dammit! I want to be important, to be a treasure that is not worth the risk of losing..........someone who is worth the effort...
