It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[TxMomw/2girls]

PM and imLIN ---- thanks so much...

boy did things change for the worse this weekend and I'm so glad I just popped on to see what you guys said.

PM you nailed it on the head.. My H spent Halloween with us and then went out with OW... he was open to coming and being with the kids Saturday night and all day today... well come Saturday morning and a few texts later my H called at 2pm and said " can I just do all day Sunday"?? He was hung over and tired and "hurting".... I told him that not doing Saturday night was fine but could he come by for a few hours b/c I had a mani and pedicure scheduled (as I had thought he was watching the kids) he said " I'll call in an hour" this is after he argued with me about coming over and how important was my mani and pedi? I said how important was getting wasted last night for you?? " it's all relative" needless to say he didn't call me until 4 hours later at 6:30pm and said he had fallin asleep and I guess so did OW.... he said how sorry he was.... whatever!!!

I was so mad... he came over this morning and is here now.. I went to church this morning and thank gosh talked with a good friend because I've been crying and so angry today.... let down again... why do I let it bother me...

So to your point PM - and as my friend said.. that my H is probably do the best he can do juggling two lives, that it must get exhausting for him... This past Wednesday he forgot to call our D3 back and we got into it on Thursday about that.. He is A.D.D too which only adds to his loofness.

I want to suggest counseling for both of us this week to discuss separation expectations because clearly he probably thinks he is doing a good job and I clearly don't think he is.... we need to set some boundries and I think our first meeting needs to be with a third party so I don't kill him. thoughts??

I have to assume that he is not going to be the Dad he was when we were living together... how could he... I guess I figured, leave me but not the kids, but in reality how can he really do both good... his girlfriend and be a great dad... it just pains me for my girls and I feel if he can't get it right now that it will probably only get worse moving forward... and my kids are the ones who will be hurt. Oh well deal with that when it happens..

thanks so much for encouraging words.. I needed it today.. I'm now going to go enjoy my afternoon ...