Thanks so much for breaking your silence on this one occasion. In fact it is probably the time that I need advice the most, so much appreciated!
you are very welcome
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I did in fact send H another email today, one that let him know I would not stand in the way of him moving out, and that I don't need him to stay nights here if he doesn't want to, and that I don't have to have Christmas in Lisbon if he doesn't want to. I hope this was still OK, as it was intended to show me dropping the rope and not looking weak...
One motto to think of ... "show don't tell". This email is fine, I'm thinking of the motto as more in general
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I may in fact try the LRT though for a few reasons it's somewhat of a challenge right now given the unstable living sitch and the shared finances.
What can YOU do alleviate this? Anything at all? You may not be able to sort it all, but I bet you can do some of it ... have a think about it.
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he says he will end up killing himself if he is forced to live with me. This is not normal, I know.
Yep, I agree 100% - this is not something a person in a rational and calm state of mind would say. So don't take anything else he says as calm or rational either!
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Maybe soon I will be able to come from more of a position of strength...
You will, if that is what you really want. You are a strong lady and you will find a way.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
