Letter from OM to W welcoming her to Calgary. Well it was either from March (doubt it) or the PAST WEEK!!!!!!!
For those of who that commented before, does that change your view on contacting OMW again?
OK, it is time to play HARDBALL!
Originally Posted By: kat, the new Hooters employee!
I am just wondering why she thinks she is going to get child support??? I wouldn't let my kids stay with her. Document how much she is gone and not really being a parent. Time for some hard ball if Karen says so!!
kat
Originally Posted By: Sugar and Spice, nasty when needed
First...keep the letter for future use. Second, call OMW - what have you got to lose? It may be your best chance for throwing a wrench into the "fantasy." I'll support you no matter what you decide, but her nasty attitude and continuous BS really get to me. I'm a spiteful bitch and I have to really hand it to you for DB'ing the whole time. You 'da man.
Now the update for today... WARNING - LENGTHY
3 separate incidents today with W.
#1 She asks me what my plan is for S13's out of town hockey tournament. I suggest she can take him down Thurs morning and I will come Fri evening and she can go home. That was she sees 3 games guaranteed and I see 2, possibly 3. Her response: So I only get 1 night in the hotel room? WTF????? So I ask what she wants to do - response from W is she hasn't thought about it, but obviously Mr. Control has already told her. I said look W that was a suggestion that you asked for and that way you get more hockey than me - has noting to do with control.
#2 W follow me to the basement a short time later.
W: have you thought about anybody to get house appraised? If not we should use J (a lady we know from a hockey team a few years ago)
Me: that would be fine
W: and who should list the house? Can we use S? (a dad from the current team)
Me: when we are ready to list it then that would be fine.
W: oh we will sell it quick
Me: not unless we both agree
W: Sure, Mr. Control
Me: no, just a statement. And BTW, when S13 and I are in PHX, we will look at condo prices so we know what we will get.
W: oh you want to buy another one?
Me: No so we can sell ours.
W: Why sell it? we can use it. (remember, this is her "Happy Place")
Me: Friends want their $$ back.
W: No they don't (with a big smirk)
Me: actually yes they do - you can call them if you like
W: fine, DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER
Me: Nothing about feeling better, just a consequence of your decision. And are we ready to pull the pin on Hawaii at Christmas?
W: (looking more shocked) after you talk to the K's and tell them what is going on I guess. Again, DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. (Starts walking away)
Me: No W, you keep telling yourself that if you want to feel better. (I walk upstairs to go shower)
W: better look online at prices. We can just keep it.
Me: If you can come up with $xxx,xxx to repay friends great. (I head to shower)
#3 W comes into bathroom while I am shaving - and she is steamed.
W: OK, we are having a discussion RIGHT NOW. What will it take for you to make this work? What do you need?
Me: W, I am not prepared to have this discussion with you when you are upset - we can have a disc later.
W: No, we are having it now Mr. Control. What the F do you need to make this work?
Me: I told you, the convo is over. I am not having a disc when you are like this. (She is standing in front of closed door so I could not leave unless I physically moved her - not going there)
W: You hole keeps getting deeper. Non-communicative, controlling, buys condo without asking if can use my money, buys D16 car w/o my input, you are losing it, Mr. Morals
Me: Too bad you feel that way. If you don't mind I would like to finish in here. You did not need to come barging in.
W: Oh like you barged into the bedroom a couple weeks ago. What did you expect to find me in bed with someone? You are so jealous of what I am doing. ( )
Me: I was coming to bed.
W: and my mom and dad are not happy with your morals. And you mom has been calling my mom lots - bet you didn't know that.
Me: (no comment here - the part about my mom was BS and I verified that after)
W: we have 3 kids that are not happy.
Me: I am fully aware of that and told you so.
W: let's talk to them right now and see what they want.
Anyway, I will cut it there. She called D16 and D11 (S13 was not home) but didn't have the talk. She sensed up and didn't want to do this to them.
Man is she out of it. I see desperation, guilt projection, false accusations... well you get the drift.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
((((Lost))))) Must still be some kind of spell hanging around from Halloween. Somebody needs to remove her broomstick from her butt! Lord, God how do you stay so calm?
She is desperate because you have successfully and without much effort, thwarted her at every turn and it looks like she was not AT ALL PREPARED for a LIS that was not just ready to roll over and give her what she wants. I would say that you are doing a great job of letting her "feel" her consequences. Again...you 'da man. "Nast when Needed" maybe I should change my screen name...I suppose SuperBitch would just be showy?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Good job bro!!! Next thing she will call you is a dictator....it comes after Mr Control If I remember rite. Also be prepared for her to call you "nuts" because you are the calm one. Don't forget that YOU are making HER look bad because she is the one yelling and you are not. I think that's the order mine came in....
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
You are doing great LIS. Amazing how well it works when you stay calm in the middle of the storms. Keep up the good work. I did have my W tell me once that she tried to pick fights with me just to feel more justified about what was going on. She respected me more that I never lost my temper around here. Hang in there bro.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
Good for you LIS. I think it's interesting that the things she describes you as if I read it right: uncommunicative, controlling, questioning your morals are more labels that I think would describe your W. I guess she doesn't want to be angry at herself so she turns it on you? Weird stuff...Karen
So I ask what she wants to do - response from W is she hasn't thought about it, but obviously Mr. Control has already told her. I said look W that was a suggestion that you asked for and that way you get more hockey than me - has noting to do with control.