T, it has come out of nowhere really. I haven't really had any clue about his life for the past year and while he has been voicing the house sale stuff for a while because he wanted to move out of his parents flat this is an unexpected turn. Quite brazen in a way. I'm not quite sure how he can be funding it really because he is still paying for half of this house which is a fairly substantial portion of his salary. I can only assume his parents are giving him some money which is their answer to everything. I don't know really, the whole thing is so very bizarre. I don't get it at all. I mean one of the main reasons for leaving was that he felt trapped/ settled down too young/ wanted freedom etc etc. Now he's putting himself in that position again? This all makes me wonder whether they are flatmates or something more. Who knows, and I am not sure if I really want to know.
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I know in my sitch I can't expect any answers from him until he brings them to me of his own volition. All I can do is try to help him feel safe to come to me for any reason, and continue to try to live a joyful life. (albeit perhaps massively introspective at the moment).
I think perhaps this is all I can do. I am feeling pretty detached at the moment. If I compare my reactions/ emotions to a few months ago I think I have really gone through a period of detachment lately.
Lisa, i think perhaps I may schedule a session with Jody as this is an unexpected twist to things. My funds won't like it after my holiday but I think it'll probably be worth it.
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I also would say that in DR MWD does say that with the MLCer the only thing you can really do is let them get on with it and focus on yourself while they try to sort themselves out and realise they need to look to themselves. I think if you still want to DB it's worth keeping a line of communication open with him, but I know it's hard to think of when you're hurting.
This is the thing isn't it. It is just gathering the energy and keeping up the momentum and will to carry on.
