$$$ situations :-(

[saffie]

I was wondering why I had the attitude that I had to money....and I think it must come from my upbringing.

Although pretty well educated and being brought up to be able to support myself....I can remember clearly my father telling me, when I was just about to graduate and at the same time planning my wedding, that he would support me until I got married and from then on it was my H's job to do that. I should feel no obligation to go find a job in the mean time if I didn't want to. Now this came from a man who had very humble beginnings and who sent my mother out to work to finance his children's privated education....before they split?????????

I grew up EXPECTING that what was my H's, ( whenever I got married), would be ours and that mine would be my own. It's really twisted and I don't understand it at all. What I experienced as i was growing up was not what my expectations turned out to be

Unlike many of my friends who felt guilty being supported as SAHM's....I never have. That's not to say though that I have ever NOT shared my money with my H if there has been a need.

I have always dealt with the finances though and it may just be that my H is really laid back about money - who knows?