Unconditional Love 3 (mmf)

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MMF, I understand your dilemma. I struggle with it too. However, I have found that my need to move on and my need to stand cycle as much as our Ws. I have always decided to do nothing.

I suppose if some great woman came around, I would have to give it some serious thought and may actually go on a date with her to see how it felt. However, that hasn't happened yet and I don't actively look. I also feel that as much as I'm lonely and miss that part of my life, I am not ready yet. I am not over my W. I think this also applies to you. If we are not over our Ws what could we offer someone else? Although, there is an argument that entering a new R at this point will help us to move on. I'm not sure if that is true or even right though.

Quite a while ago, I set in my mind that 3 years would be a good amount of time to stand. (making the story your told above ironic) In looking at the restorations that have occurred here, it looks like most of them have occurred in less than 3 years. Also, at that point, I figure I have to really consider my needs and wants in my life. Currently, I am a little less that 2 years in to this.

I haven't said, but I took my ring off a while back after I signed the SA. It didn't feel right wearing it. I guess I felt that at a year and a half in to this, people were looking at me like I was in denial and I didn't feel like explaining the situation anymore. Sadly, most people looked at me like I had 2 heads. Maybe there was an element of opening myself up to having someone come along. I'm not sure. It just didn't feel right.

I still believe that there is a lot of guilt and a lot of uncertainty in your W. I think these observations you have and the way she interacts with you point to that. I think the D was a way to try to end her pain. In my opinion, you may be divorced now but your marriage is not over.