When we all start on this board we're all trying with every ounce of our heart soul and mind to save our marriage. As the hopelessness and emotional hurt (real or perceived) with our spouses increases we work through the pain only to realize what is crucial to us... saving our family, saving our children from the scars of losing what is most precious.. a family with two parents who love each other.
Ya see, Maria.. I think if you decide to continue in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of the children, you're doomed. It's like couples who have a rocky relationship deciding to have a baby to see if that helps. No wonder you're eating like crazy.
As an example, you have a better chance of interviewing and being well received if you know someone in the right place. All that does is get you in the door. It's your abilities that get you the job.
Your husband deciding he wants to try again opens the door to because of the children . It's his ability and conviction that make a difference.
I imagine he saw THE Maria he knew, loved and didn't want to lose when he saw your anticipation in going to New York, the absolute transformation and glow when you returned. Your radiance whacked him like a wrecking ball at full speed and he said, "Holy crap. I'm a horse's ass if I lose her."
My guess is he saw the woman he fell in love with.
On this board we all wing it. Forrest has had success, he gives great perspective. People who love you are all here for you. But none of us are YOU. The fact you're eating like crazy says you have a serious conflict and dilemma.
Guess what.. if he thinks it's a great idea to come back.. it will still be a great idea in a week, a month. You can tell him that.
