I have been thinking about what you have all said and I have to say that I do know asking him won't work. He will feel backed into a corner and that is one of the reasons he left and the only reason for the second bomb back in May. To be honest I don't really need, for myself, to have the conversation. I already 'know' and hearing him say the words would only cause me pain and I know the situation would degenerate and I would probably lose a lot of dignity and he would just feel guilty. Also, it wouldn't be a last conversation as we still need to divorce, get the house sold if that is what things come down to. I can honestly say as well that he would not be totally honest with me and I would find it hard to believe him anyway now. He thinks he isn't lying to me, well I suppose technically he is not, he is just not telling me. I suppose to him there is some kind if differentiation.
This does change things a lot for me and I am going to have to do some serious thinking about what to do next. This, for me, does affect my DBing. I'm feeling a lot of hurt at the moment and although I am not in bits and able to get on with things I have got a lot of sadness in my heart.
I'm still not sure what to do, some more thinking I suppose. At some point soon he will probably have to tell me he has moved out of the flat. It could be quite interesting to see how long this takes... as T said a while ago, let the WAS unravel their lives.
ITH - I know that he has moved in with this girl. I don't know for sure whether it is flat mates or something more. I am trying not to assume as there is no specific evidence either way.
