Bbj, I can understand how frustrated you must feel. I've been there back before we separated.
We would have long discussions at night where he would say I am the meanest person, he wanted out, I had ruined his life etc etc., and then he would come to bed with me(at the far end of the bed), wake up in the morning and act as everything was normal until I would bring "the issue" up again. I think that is when I f@cked up in regards to DBing (16 months ago-I had no clue) because I was pushing and talking and demanding answers. I now realise he didnt have them, heck!! it took him more than a year to find the answers he was looking for.
I understand your sitch at the moment is a bit different having been through all these phases, but what you describe sounds so familiar, I couldnt NOT comment on it.
