He needs to SEE what the true consequences of his actions are.
Unfortunately what he will SEE is still a while off, but it builds everyday. The consequences of his actions are two kids that don't want to have anything to do with him because he hurts them at every turn. Its like a dog that has been kicked repeatedly...eventually they just stop coming when you call them. That will be the consequence, but the he will not be the only loser and that is the hardest part for me to deal with. I know I can't control it, but it just hurts my heart to see him disappoint them and lie to them over and over and see the build up and the let down. It gets harder everytime.
Originally Posted By: MrsJJJ
I HAVE BEEN A TRUE, LOVING, AND DEVOTED WIFE as I promised. At least acknowledge that.
Mrs J3 sometimes this is the hardest thing for them to get. It would be so much easier if we would just "move on" so they would be able to justify their actions and feel better about themselves.
My H is an addict. He knows this and yet he CHOOSES not to get help for it. This addiction has cost him his marriage, his kids, his self respect, his health as well as untold thousands in cash...and yet he CHOOSES to continue. I forget that this is not the man I nmarried. I forget that this alien is incapable of making a promise that he can keep. GF is right, part of it is my fault because there is a part of me that still WANTS to believe his BS, but in my heart I know better, I just lie to myself once again and it only serves to hurt me.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
