D12 spent the night with a friend last night, went to a Halloween party at church/school. She was a '50's girl. Had a pretty good time, I think. I picked her up early this afternoon and we went thrift-store shopping in the wealthy 'burbs. Got some good stuff! I definitely have to be in the right mood, but it can be fun. D loves it, as well as garage sale shopping (and I'm in the mood much less often for that!) We ended up at a mall, which is rare for us, and we found a store called "Go Fish." Cool place, if you have one near you--fair trade goods, which means unique and very reasonable, as well as knowing your purchase helps support artisans in developing countries.
While D was at the party, I went over to a friend's house where we had chili and caught up on each others' lives. So lots of verbal processing, listening to myself talk.
D is supposed to go to church with H in the morning. She was all excited about possibly spending the day with him--because he never sees her on weekends, and they don't have a lot of quality time to spend together. But he told her he had to bring her right home after church because he had a dinner party to go to. She was bummed; I was pretty glad, because I haven't seen much of her this week. She vented some about H being on the phone so much when she's there in the evenings; she said he mentioned something about--well, his friend had a bad day with her patients, and she said--well, I have bad days too and felt angry about being ignored. So he doesn't want time with her on the weekends, he's on the phone with OW while she's with him during the week. Guess he forgot about winterizing the pool. My L suggested that I start throwing some bumps in his road, not refusing to let her visit but having plans for her so that she's not going to his place so often during the week. Just to see his reaction.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
