DQ, My sister-in-law's past behavior (she's changed in the past 5yrs due to severe health problems) is no concern of mine. I only mention it because it can't help but have affected my wife's earliest attitudes towards sex. It's certainly important to my wife: she's cited it along with her father's alcoholism as one of the reasons she has very little contact with her family, or the "trash" as she calls them. Again, it's in her mind, not mine. I couldn't care less about it except insofar as it affects my wife. Thanks and keep the help coming, everyone.
