How's this for garbage. Here is a "convo" W and I had:
W: why was s13 allowed to go to friends w/o cleaning his room?
Me: I haven't seen - he cleaned last week
W: there was clothes in the hall since I got back from phx. Is that acceptable in this house?
Me: I haven't see it
W: nice parenting skills
Ha ha. Don't think that has anyhing to do with parenting - just something that bugs you know who. I just smiled - no response.
That convo bugs me. My H talks kind of like that too. First of all, I think you should have called her on the "nice parenting skills" remark. That was rude and judgmental and I don't think you should let her get away with that! I also think maybe part of the problem is that she's kind of expecting you to be a mind-reader instead of communicating with you. It sounds like she wanted your S13 to clean up his mess before going over to friends. Now if she had told you that or asked you to make sure he did so before going to the friends, I'm thinking you would have. But she didn't communicate that with you and expected you to read her mind? Maybe you could point out that if she wants S13 to do something she could tell you so you could back her up? But if she doesn't say anything, then what can you do?
