Gonna try to nap...big parties for me tonite...PDT.....get off the PC and go outside man!!!!
Hey, I just got back from my and S12's baseball game, thankyewverymuch! We WON, too, and we're now 6-3-1 and well in the playoff hunt! S12 played really well, too, as he has all season, and it was a great night for baseball here in N.E. Florida. We took both boys and my wife's parents out for a bite to eat afterward, and now I'm out back by my pool smoking a good Rocky Patel cigar and enjoying a glass of wine and a nice (but cool) evening.
How's this for garbage. Here is a "convo" W and I had:
W: why was s13 allowed to go to friends w/o cleaning his room?
Me: I haven't seen - he cleaned last week
W: there was clothes in the hall since I got back from phx. Is that acceptable in this house?
Me: I haven't see it
W: nice parenting skills
Ha ha. Don't think that has anyhing to do with parenting - just something that bugs you know who. I just smiled - no response.
That convo bugs me. My H talks kind of like that too. First of all, I think you should have called her on the "nice parenting skills" remark. That was rude and judgmental and I don't think you should let her get away with that! I also think maybe part of the problem is that she's kind of expecting you to be a mind-reader instead of communicating with you. It sounds like she wanted your S13 to clean up his mess before going over to friends. Now if she had told you that or asked you to make sure he did so before going to the friends, I'm thinking you would have. But she didn't communicate that with you and expected you to read her mind? Maybe you could point out that if she wants S13 to do something she could tell you so you could back her up? But if she doesn't say anything, then what can you do?
Karen, It was rude. But I had to laugh inside. From someone who wasn't here for 9 days and then today pretty much gone all day (as she is now as well), for her to say "nice parenting skills... what a joke!
No, she never said anything about S13 cleaning his room.
D11 was over at a friends a block away. Calls W and asks her a question. I say nothing when I hear W on the phone. 15 minutes later my cell phone rings. D11 calls me to pick her up. W doesn't know who it is. I simply ask - where are you and say sure I can come there. Well, W says "who was that please". Temtaption was to say "Karen - going to exchange smilies!" but I did not...
I see W went looking at open houses today. How the hell does she expect to buy a house on her income, even with alimony and child support?????????? Fantasy, fantasy, fantasy
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Karen, It was rude. But I had to laugh inside. From someone who wasn't here for 9 days and then today pretty much gone all day (as she is now as well), for her to say "nice parenting skills... what a joke!
No, she never said anything about S13 cleaning his room.
I figured as much. I know what you mean about the parenting comment. I do 95% of the parenting and he does 5% and critiques me all the time. It's much easier for them to find mistakes when you're doing most of the parenting. I could be a perfect parent too if I did it for one day a week! Karen
I agree - I have been too passive. She is using that more and more ("nice parenting") plus other rude chit. Have to get more aggressive with calling her on this cr@p.
Shot well deserved from you both of you.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
I am just wondering why she thinks she is going to get child support??? I wouldn't let my kids stay with her. Document how much she is gone and not really being a parent. Time for some hard ball if Karen says so!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
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