Can't they chill and let me be free?

[MrsJJJ]

<<I don't understand how a grown person could choose gambling or OW or whatever over their kids and such an important day.>>

You are not alone. My husband, my whole world, my prince charming, devasted me on August 4th by abandoning me, his house, his step-kids, etc with no warning whatsoever. I never saw this coming. Our 7th wedding anniversary is Monday. I never in a million years thought I would be spending it alone. Since joining this group, I've learned his patterns described are that of Mid-Life-Crisis.
Following all the recommended steps such as leaving him alone, makes this even harder on Monday. No, I won't acknowledge it...although I want to but as you said.....how a grown man can forget such an important day.
Regardless what he is going through....He knows, I have remained committed to him, care for "his" house, sleep alone...while "my' husband has sex with someone else; work overtime to pay the bills his income paid; etc........and I am certain...I won't be 'worthy' of at least a phone call.
He knows Nov 3rd has been my favorite day since marrying him...and regardless of what he has done....I have no interest in anybody else.
I HAVE BEEN A TRUE, LOVING, AND DEVOTED WIFE as I promised. At least acknowledge that.