TL sorry your sitch is turning in this direction. I do agree with Snodderly regarding what to reply back to your h's e-mail.

It will do no good to point out the wrongs of your h. He will need to realize that on his own.

This road is so hard.

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"