Single parenting and dating again.....

[~Sol]

The day after Halloween. My D and I had a good time at the mall trick or treating. She was happy just to get out and do it, which was good enough for me. I like seeing her happy, and I try to be a better dad by taking care of her needs, and just let her be a kid. I just wish that the ex can communicate a little better with me over scheduling times with our D, if I had solid plans to go out I would simply let my ex know that that's what I was going to do and she would have to adapt. Luckily my plans weren't solid last night, and I wanted to spend time with my D trick or treating. But one day I will be making time for a future Ms. Right and I would need to be firm with my ex, and now's a good time as any to start.

Well, my D feels very different towards her mother compared to me. Today her mom called her 3 different times to ask D if she wanted to visit with her (we're flexible in our custody agreement). My D reluctantly said "no" to her mom's requests to visit her, and added she "wanted to stay with daddy today." Hmm, interesting. I'm so glad my daughter is 9, and that my ex doesn't force the visitation issue but lets our daughter decide who she wants to spend time with. The majority of the time she wants to spend is with me, and a lot has to do with our parenting styles. I'm more patient than my ex is, I don't yell or swear at my D, I tutor my D when she needs homework help, and my D listens to me more than she listens to her mom. So today I have her, and even though I feel sick and miserable due to this cold, I'm providing for my baby's needs and being happy about it.

I ate one of her candies, a snickers bar, and I enjoyed it!!! D noticed!