Over the past 3 weeks, I have virtually ignored her. since doing her brakes, I have not had anything to do with her at all. I think packing the clothes and storing them upstairs is the best move for me. the pictures are stored, this will be the final action to show her there is nothing here for her. I am changing the lock to my bedroom and office this weekend. she will not have access to any of my personal items. My son told me something last night that I found odd. i had told you he made a comment about her not being away for much longer and he'd tell me later. The other night she was talking to him about being screwed up money wise. He told her, why don't you go back to Dad, you know you're going to and everyone wants you to. She said she knows but its hard. He told her the only one it is hard for right now is you, Dad is gfonna wait forever. I found her comment about I know but its hard as the answer to his question. Odd. Not reading into it,
Yard work is a bitch. Only got half done, what a workout. Made up my mind about BIL, he will be ask to leave and find a new place tonight. Spent all day thinking about things, and have decided that I just can't have anything in my face right now other than me and my kids and my home. Got great news from the insurance company, they are sttling up my claim and I should have a nice check next week. Financially I am over the top. Not rich, but now my budget will work. I feel so good about that.
I think the less she has here, available to her, the less she'll have a reason to come by. If she continues to come by, then I know it isn't for clothes. My lawyer told me to change the locks and if she asks, just tell her the key broke. I don'tr want an argument with her, so rather than jump in her face about her OM and I don't want her here, I'll just tell her there are two keys, mine and my daughters. If she pushes the its my house to and I can come over if I want, then I'll give her the guns. It isn't your house, hasn't been since you walked. You decided to leave, you decided to live elsewhere. You are not going to come and go from here like yuouare contributing anything. Your clothes are packed and stored or you can take them with you. You have no reason to be here when I am her, I live here and I don't need to see you. If you want to come over and see the D, fine, see her, but be gone by the time I get home. I am getting the legal feedback about abandonmnet inMassachusetts. I believe in the case of adultery, I can get a court order to keep her from coming into the house, but I have to see what I have to do, short of filing.
