Well I definitely feel for all of you on this thread. I too could very well post my name on Meatpuppets' post. My wife and I were seperated and are now back together. There has been many things that went down over the last 2 years that has created a lot of damage to our marriage. The one thing however that has been plaguing me in our marriage is the lack of intimacy. We have sex, or make love when she says so and never otherwise. I feel totally controlled by this and sense that she enjoys having this power over me. When I ask her to read TSSM so as to maybe get an understanding of how it is affecting me she can't seem to be bothered.
After reading all of your posts I am left wondering on how having a marriage such as this can be any good for ones health. The stress that I feel, as do you,can not be good for a person. I love my wife very much and having put up with all the things that have happened over the last couple of year will attest to this, but most days I wonder on how long I will last in a sex deprived marriage. As someone stated in one of these posts, it's not so much just having sex, but the connection I feel towards my wife. When we connect it is like a drug. She often states after we have been intimate on how loving and caring and supportive I am and that I would do anything for her but she then goes back to her old ways and the resentment starts to build in me and we then spirral towards dysfunction. I think that my wife is gorgeous and very sexy but she views this as just being horny and wanting to get my rocks off. She cannot and will not understand that a physical connection with her leads to an emotional one for me. Like the rest of you, all I want is to be desired and to be in the throws of passion.
I know that the theme here is to salvage our marriages and to work things out but is it possible that some things can never be worked out?
