I could have signed my name to your post to meatpup.
I have been without sexual contact for over a year.
Once, since we seperated she came over (about 4 months after we sep) and we were talking about sex. Well, we ended up in bed but right before consumation (penetration) she threw her hands up over her eyes and said STOP! She abruptly got up, got dressed and went outside.
We talked about it and she said "your my husband and I can't even have sex with you, what is wrong with me??" We had incredible sex before we seperated now its like it never existed, hell we havn't even kissed since then.
One thing I do notice is that when we are together we bond really well the longer together (i.e. 1/2 hour vs 2 hours or longer) but then as soon as she goes back to her place she becomes an alien again.
We have agreed to get re-married and pursue working us out but, i have no idea where her head is when it comes to intimacy again with me.
I am soooooooooooo sex starved, one thing for sure that I have learned is how to notice red flags way before they fly.
HF
Its kind of like I don't sexually exist with her anymore, but if we were able to make that critical connection that would help us immensly on our path to re-building.
