I could sign my name to your post, it is exactly what I would say too. All of the items on your lists are absolutely the same. In fact, I could simply repost the whole letter with my name. The profound pain and sadness that this non-sexual situation is causing is overwhelmingly damaging. I know that I have lost so much joy and I suspect the distress has shortened my lifespan and made me more susceptible to disease. If only our LD spouses could somehow, for a day, feel the weight of this burden that we have endured for too many years.
check out the post I just sent to Corri (Re: Women miss sex, too! [re: Corri ])
I don’t want to be so manipulated by my attraction for my wife. I’d have a great time if I could shut it off as needed but I can not. Most nights I roll over to hold my wife close while she sleeps and I ache physically and emotionally with desire and love. I want to turn away so I can sleep without this distraction but many times I can not bring myself to stop touching her even though it burns into my soul and body like a branding iron. I wake up exhausted and wanting her even more. Being tired or even sick doesn’t lower my libido enough. I want her sooooo bad. I don’t want her simply to allow me to screw her to satisfy my physical need; I want our passion for each other to drive us together in a head on collision of tangled pleasure. I want her to look at me with the lustful eyes that used to see me many years ago. At this point I’d gladly take a scheduled mechancial hand job if she would offer.
I would add these to the list of negative effects of this disease:
7. depression 8. inability to focus on tasks or conversation 9. shortened temper 10. listlessness and fatigue 11. disinterest in work and hobbies 12. inability to sleep 13. sluggishness 14. irritability 15. chest pain 16. dizziness 17. general unhappiness 18. self-doubt and questioning 19. decreased inability to enjoy anything
So many negative effects that could be erase by one of the most beautiful and natural acts known to humankind.
If there were a food item we were allergic to that caused all of these problems I have no doubt our LD spouses would move mountains to change our diet so that we could be healthy. Why do they ignore the relevance of a healthy sex life? It has be so well documented for eons. It is as if there is an alien conspiracy to undermine relationships.
