NDS, That's what I'm struggling with now going from detaching to attaching to the R again. Not as much advice how to advance the R once there is some connection going on. Cheers
Coach For me, I honestly never felt like I detached. I learned to deal with the sitch and accept it to some extent, but because we remained so close I never felt detached.
Last night was one of those times where I waffled...DB or....? We ended up home together, in bed and close, but she told me to drop her off and go have some fun without her.
Which did she really want? Would she have been hurt if I just dropped her home and left, or did she really want some space and time alone.
Not really going nuts over the thoughts, but just pondering....tonight is the same thing. She sent me a text to tell me she wants to stay home tonight and relax...took something out for dinner...asks if it's OK with me.
I get the same question in my head from last night....would it be good DB'ing and a 180 to say...."thanks but I am going out tonight", or just assume that I am past all that at this point?
My instinct, and what I said?? "Sounds good....let me know if you need anything at the store and I'll stop on the way home."
That's what I want...I want to stay home with her...I don't want to have to TRY to be away from her if she is acting like she wants to be with me.
