We all have those exact same feelings come to us. When they do come, just ask yourself what are you doing for YOU right now? The healing process is just that - a process - and we all have to go through with it. It's hard, yes, but soon you will see that you are your own unique person and you don't really NEED someone, but desire someone. When we are divorced from a long M, we need time. Time to be our unique selves again, time to be with friends, and of course time to heal. My biggest concern about getting those lonely feelings are figuring out a way to make them go away without setting myself up for failure by spending too much time thinking about it. So instead of thinking about being lonely (which I'm guilty of too) I try to think about what I can do to be a happier me. So I work on getting out of my shell by doing something new that I normally wouldn't do in order to grow as a person. It can be calling someone you haven't spoken to in a while (which is always good), to just playing with your kids at the park and enjoying the day.
This is all about working on you now. It's OK to miss having that one person, but it is not your stbx anymore. It will be someone that will care about you, someone that has to be special enough to share your life with. Just think about today, you'll do OK and leave tomorrow for tomorrow.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
