This seems to be a cycle. I screwed up fantasy #1 when I confronted her about the A, then again in July when I called the OMW, and now again when I refused to meet her half way with anything (bedroom, house, D).
Yep, I think it's that. My H had unbelievable fantasies about how D is going to make everything in our lives perfect. Reality can be such a bummer! I also think maybe it's projection: the angry stuff he says at me is probably mostly directed at himself. Maybe it's easier to do the things they do when they try to make an enemy out of you; who would act like they do to a friend? Lately, I just think these people need serious counseling!!!
I don't have the same goals as I did when I started. You know, get the H back was probably my major (only?) goal at first. Then started to focus more on me and the kids. I think I sleep pretty well at night doing the right things for our family, the kids, and myself. Just the right thing to do. I do know I've done 100% for our M that I could and that gives me some peace that H will never have.
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Geez, Karen must be rubbing off on me - so many smilies...
Sorry, I know they can be so addictive! I always think well just one more! Karen
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