Something our MC told me this week....your wife, like mine, is angry at you rite now. She is angry about everything you do, say, buy and question her about. This is because everything in her life rite now that is messed up revolves around you in a way.
You are being a good parent You are in control of your emotions You are standing up for yourself in a positive way You treat her kindly and with respect You are fighting for your family
She is doing NONE of these things!!!!
My MC said it will take her a LONG time to heal herself from everything SHE is screwing up.....nothing I can do about it. She told me I am NOT the bad guy here.....you are in the same spot....keep all this in your head...and the dumb chit she says and does shouldn't bother you so bad in time....
An example
Couple weeks ago W decides to call me to tell me the CC payments are 6 days late....tell is a bad word....YELL at me. I calmly explain she can't have it all.....everything paid on time AND me to raise money for a D. Of course she whines some more and I just keep quiet. Today is about the 10th day in a row our car finance company has called....she is responsible for that. Up until today I was just letting in roll off my back.....I called them back and asked them to change the phone # to her cell. I then called her to see about her plans for tonite and calmly told her I gave them her # for anymore questions......can you guess her reaction? I said NOTHING about the CC call from a couple weeks before
One other thing the MC said.....I have ruined her "fantasy" life....of course she is gonna be angry. I hope all this makes some kinda sense?!?!?
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
