Halloween was only ruined if you allowed him to ruin it. I understand you're upset and venting, but you've also got to see the role you are playing in all of this. It's a two-way street, so it's not just your H who is at fault here.

I know he said he was going to be there, but even still, if you would act as if with NO expectations, then you wouldn't be going through this emotional hurricane and you would be less likely to react when he doesn't follow through.

As hard as it is, you've got to control how you react. Making him feel guilty might make you feel better, but how is it working for the R? From where I sit, it doesn't seem to be moving you towards PROGRESS, and shouldn't that be your goal?

Sorry for the 2x4, but sometimes we really need them.

You know the problem, and it's your job - not H's - to find the SOLUTION to reach a happier, healthier you.

(((Corey)))

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell