I am so sorry that your spouses do not or will not include you in their holiday plans.

I went thru a mood in the last few weeks where I wasn't sure if I wanted my husband to spend it with us (although deep down, I really did). He and I were text messaging one night and I pretty much told him that he did not have to feel obligated to spend Thanksgiving or Christmas with us and if he would like to spend it with someone else, he was free to do that. He texted back with a what do you mean.......and I spelled it out. He has no intentions of spending the holidays with anyone else other than us.

I don't think he has missed a holiday since all of this began which I thought he would.

My heart goes out to those of you who have to endure being alone.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19