That is the line I am walking. Being a pleasant, happy, positive-thinking person, but not kissing h's butt. Like my friend Kalni has said, she wants to see a gesture from her H that show he is "IN".....I want the same.
However, in my case my H has actually said he wanted the D, until I went to the lawyer. He has been wishy-washy ever since..
We had fun last night with the kids trick or treating except for one comment I made (stupid me!) referring to H's looking for a new house. He said something back like yeah he needed a new one (the kids were in front of us and didn't hear) and I said well that answers that......He said,no, I just said that b/c this is not the place to talk about it and YOU said something first...
He said the other night that when I bring up anything like that (like the other night when I mentioned he needed his own car seats now), he felt it was a "dig" on him...so he gets defensive. I said it isn't a dig, it is just the facts if you are in fact leaving and we are going to D...
So last night I was a little irritable right before bed, b.c. I am thinking "I just told this man Wed night that I was at peace with going to the lawyer and doing this if I must, and he is just lying there half asleep on the couch like we are just a comfy little family??? WTF?"
I sighed and got up, said, "Going to bed??" H said, "Yeah, why? I don't really want to talk at eleven at night..."
I said, "Fine, I have my answer. I told you Wed. I was ready for the lawyer, I was going to be okay, and you do not have anything to say so that is that."
H said, "No, I didn't say that, I said eleven at night when I am asleep on the couch is not a good time to talk."
I said, "Okay, if YOU wanted to talk about it, what time did YOU set aside to talk about it?"
H says, "Tomorrow night." (Which is tonight)
We will see if he has actually got ANYTHING to say.........
